Wedding Vows – Part I
In the United States over two million wedding ceremonies are held every single year. This said, no two shall be exactly alike. Think about it – the dress, the flowers, the colors, the cake, the size of the guest list, all of these aspects will differ… the list goes on. But one fact remains. Each and every single one of these weddings is guaranteed to include one element: the bride and groom. And in this ritual that unites husband and wife together as a couple in the eye of the lord, and in the view of the law, the exchange of vows really is the very heart and soul of the entire ceremony.
As Long as Love Shall Last “Do you now commit to each other to love, honour, respect each other, to communicate with each other, to look to your own emotional health so that you can relate in a healthy way, and provide a healthy home for children if you choose to have them; to be a support and comfort for your partner in times of sickness and health, as long as love shall last?”
Mary A. Axford – Pagan Wedding Ritual Couples often go into great detail when making their wedding vows before the actual ceremony. This can take many forms, and depends on the individual couple. Sometimes the couple use traditional vows that have been written by another person, and are used in churches the length and breadth of the country on a daily basis. And sometimes the happy couple decides to write their own personal vows for one another.
Of course it is a wonderfully romantic idea for a couple to decide to write your own wedding vows. In fact, this is becoming an increasing popular phenomenon as time goes by. However, it is not as easy as it may seem. Even the most expressive and creative person can find it hard to express exactly what they are trying to communicate to their lover. Remember, these words will not only mean more to your lover than any before, but they will also be articulated in the most public of scenarios. The pressure is on! But never fear, as help is at hand.
If you find that you are struggling to get the wording absolutely perfect there are many specialists readily available to guide you. On the Internet alone there are many different companies that offer affordable and effective services to ensure that you can express your eternal love for one another perfectly. Each company has a different stance – from using freelance writers to write personalized messages as guidelines for your development, to suggested frameworks for the actual structure of the vow, and possible adjectives alongside. It is a good idea to have a really good browse through these websites before committing yourself to them – but when you do, the chances are that you will be guaranteed word perfect result that will express all of your hearts desire, and more. And this is just the stage before you decide to renew the vows in several delirious years to come…!
Wedding Vows – Part II
Declaring your wedding vows in front of your fianceé, family and friends is one of those special moments during a wedding that can be heartfelt to you as a couple and undoubtedly meaningful to everyone else in attendance.
Writing your own vows is a wonderful way to make the wedding ceremony even more special, and truly add a personal touch.
While you must be married by an official or officiant who is able to legally declare you husband and wife, the actual wording you choose for your wedding vows need not adhere to the typical, formal words or vows you may have heard at other weddings.
Please note that if you will be married in a place of worship and wish to customize your wedding vows, you may have to obtain permission to do so and subsequently have these vows approved by your official prior to your wedding day.
Your officiant will more than likely have a collection of vows that he or she has used in prior ceremonies — this is a good place to start when constructing your own vows. Feel free to use wording that appeals to you both and don’t be afraid to add other words, promises etc. that are important to you.
Here is a set of traditional wedding vows that you can start with and add other words or promises to – you may also prefer to keep things simple and traditional as many couples do, and just use these vows as is:
Most importantly, don’t worry that you have to memorize your vows – only do so if you’re both comfortable with it. You may be far more comforted knowing that your vows are recorded in a journal which you’ll both read from during the ceremony.